We have another high school graduate in our home. It’s been a week filled with joy, 18 years of memories, sweet tears, and a full heart. I desperately try to live in the moment and not wish for years past. I savor the time I have with my young adult children and truly enjoy the changing nature of our relationships, watching them make the most of this phase.

And my one bit of advice to all graduates is always the same…be true to yourself. God created only ONE you; one unique, incredibly special you. Listen to your inner voice…what gives you joy? What are you drawn to? How do you like to spend your time?

Look at what you’re good at…these are your strengths; use them to help others, to find a career that’s fulfilling. Don’t shy away from things that come naturally but challenge yourself to grow further.

Be honest with yourself…what is hard for you? These are weaknesses that can be turned into gifts. Put hard work into making changes that better yourself. We all have areas that we need to work on so embrace them for they will make you stronger.

Your path will not look like anyone else’s and it shouldn’t. Be proud of that! Take quiet time alone to get to know your true self, pondering questions, planning actions to answers. Self-reflection is a normal part of human development and happens quite often throughout your life so get used to it. Enjoy the process, the metamorphosis…this one unique life that only you will live. ❤︎

Guiding Questions for Graduates: Set aside some quiet time and write down honest answers to these questions. This is a valuable way to learn more about your unique self.

• How do I describe myself?
• What do I like to do in my spare time? What are my hobbies?
• What’s fun? What brings me happiness?
• What do I find hard to do? What’s challenging for me?
• When do I procrastinate? When am I excited to start something?
• How do I handle stress?
• What do I value? What’s important to me?
• Who do I prioritize? Who do I go to for help or advice?
• What motivates me? Inspires me?
• Here is a list of my goals:
• Where do I see myself in 6 months? 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

✺ Lauri is a certified life coach working with new grads on creating self-awareness and confidence in their unique selves navigating the space of young adulthood.