Why is saying, “No,” so difficult for most people? How did we get to be a YES! culture even though we don’t want to do a lot of the things we agree to? Well, an Essentialist Family learns to become confident in agreeing to commitments and decisions that benefit their family and have no problem declining when it’s not in their best interest. Here are some ways to gracefully say, “No,” and give you time to truly think about whether or not you and your family want to commit.
“Thank you for thinking of me. I will check my calendar and get back to you.”
“That sounds fun! I always run things by my kids first before I commit them but I’ll let you know what they think.”
“We make decisions as a family, so I’ll bring it to their attention and fill you in on what we decide.”
“I’ve agreed to several volunteer projects at the moment, but when one finishes and I’ll reach out to you.”
“Fall is a busy time of year for us, but we’ll consider this in the spring.”
Learning to prioritize engagements and projects becomes easier the more you do it. Have a script you are comfortable with so it comes to mind whenever you are put on the spot. You will begin to see how people will respect you more when you pause and explain how you commit to only those activities, committees, and parties that are essential to you and your family. Not only will they realize you value your time when you gracefully say, “No,” but you may inspire them to do the same.
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